I decided to drink my coffee on the front porch this morning and watch the sunrise. The smell outside my house is not pretty, between the spray they use on the orchards and the cars, it is nasty. My house is on a “short cut” road, everyone who lives around me uses it to save time. The speed limit is 35, but a friend of mine who is a state trooper has ticketed people in excess of 100 on the road. If I walk about half a mile behind my house I am on Interstate 26. I can hear the traffic of it sometimes, especially when the trucks hit the rumble strips on the side of the road. I love my little house; the way it sits is perfect. My front porch faces due east, so I get great sunrise views.
About now, anyone reading this is wondering where it is going. I realized this morning how hectic our lives have become. I do not have much going on right now; school does not start until next Thursday. Even so, I find that I feel stressed most of the time. I see little things that need to be done around my house, like all the dead flowers really need to come out of the flower bed and start to get it ready for next spring. I then watched some of the people driving by, and knew they had even more going on. One guy was reading the paper while he drove; a woman was drinking her morning drink and talking on the cell phone. It hit me that we make ourselves more stressed than we need to be. We are not in competition with anyone else, it is all internal.
So, what is the Fat Guy getting at? Time for a strange review. Today, I am going to talk about a product that many of us take for granted, even though we all use it. It is our most hated enemy and trusted friend. What is it? Time. Yep, that clock on the wall. We all try to “plan our time wisely” so that we can get “the most bang for our buck”. I wonder how many of you reading this have ever stopped, and I mean really stopped, to consider what your life is. I know many of you will say that you take vacations all the time, and relaxation is a favorite pastime. I once thought this also, and then one day I went for a hike with my five year old son. I had hiked the trail we were on many times in the past five years. Nice easy trail so he would not get tired and cranky and I could enjoy my relaxation. He showed me just how out of focus I was. He asked me about a tree that had fallen. Why did it fall? Did it hurt anyone? What happens to it now? As I look at the tree, annoyed that he had interrupted my solitude, I realize that tree had been there a long time, right beside the trail. I had never noticed it. I than looked around and saw some other things I had never seen before, nothing major, but little things I could tell had been there. My time was so valuable that even while relaxing I could not enjoy it. I was so focused on the next project, most of which were my own invention that I thought about them all the time. I had forgotten how to stop what I was doing and simply live.
So, what is my take on time? It is a wonderful gift, if used correctly. Do not use it to make your life so much better that you forget the reason you were making it better to start with. If you have a family, let the youngest child set the pace for a day. See the world through their eyes. If you don’t have a child, and no one will let you borrow one, DO NOT GO TAKE ONE. That will give you a lot of time to think. Instead, put away your cell phone, your car keys, and your agenda. Grab your bike or favorite pair of walking shoes, and go. No trail, no plan, no set destination. Everything of any importance will still be waiting for you in a few hours. Go role down a hill, jump in a mud puddle, or build a fort. Play Barbie’s, dress up in some silly clothes and go to your favorite fast food place and order a kids meal. Go to the park and swing, slide, run, and scream. I promise you, when you are done, you will feel so much better.